Today my blog is about family. When I first got married to Greg I found that I have always had that desire to be a mom one day. Shortly after we got married Greg and I were called to serve in the Nursery. We have been serving in the Nursery for a year now and we love it! :-) Now I know that I said that this was about family and it is. :-) When Greg and I got married we became a family(just the two of us.) Now most people may say,"Celinda, you and Greg don't have children yet." I would say to those people,"That may be so but aren't Greg and I a family of our own?" I would say we are a family. Most people think especially in LDS(Mormon) culture that every couple have children super fast. Some couples do have children right away and others have children later in life.There are many lessons I have learned in all of this:
1)Regardless of how long a couple has been married, NEVER and I mean NEVER ask when they are going to have children. This is a decision between husband and wife and the Lord. Sometimes it takes a married couple years to have children. Be sensitive to the fact that it is there business of when they start having kids. Remember that a husband and wife is a FAMILY. :-)
2)Do not under any circumstances ask a woman if she is pregnant! I have constantly been asked this at work by the same staff member the whole year that I have worked at my job. Maybe on those days my stomach looked funny or whatever but regardless it is completely and utterly rude to ask this! The best response I can give without snapping or without crying is,"Not that I know of."This is something a co-worker should never ask. If they do though use the response I said and hopefully they won't ask you again. (PS. I have never asked someone if they are pregnant. Even if you think they may be just don't ask wait until they tell you.)
3)Despite what anyone says or asks you REMEMBER that you and your husband are a FAMILY! :-) One of my favorite quotes comes from the Lilo and Stitch movie and I quote,"Ohana means family, family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten."End quote. This movie the sisters have each other and they are FAMILY. :-) That is what family is about! They had a rough situation. A lot of married couples go through those tough and rough situations. One of the toughest things I believe a husband and a wife go through is trying to have children. I have that desire to be a mom and the MOST IMPORTANT thing I have learned is that it is all in the Lord's timing and that we have to be PATIENT. Being patient is not an easy thing. In fact it is the one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. However, knowing that both me and Greg have Our Savior, Jesus Christ to help comfort us and to understand EVERYTHING we go through because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, I know that one day we will have children, in the Lord's due time.
4)Finally, I share this story because I want to help others who may feel like I felt,that even if you don't have children as husband and wife you are still a family! :-) Remember always to trust in the Lord because He knows what's best for us, and He knows when we are ready. I am grateful Greg and I have had an opportunity to serve in Nursery, and that we still are serving in Nursery because I know the Lord is having us learn something and teaching us something by both of us being in that calling.
I started out this post that this post is about family. Many of my family and my friends are going to have children soon or just recently had children. I want to say how happy I am for them! :-) How happy Greg and I are for them! :-) One day Greg and I will have children in the Lord's due time. :-) For now we are still a FAMILY and we have an opportunity to serve in the Nursery, 9 adorable kids, two hours every Sunday. :-) So the next time I'm asked how many kids we have, I will smile and say,"9 kids.Two hours every Sunday." :-)
